The Sprout

hisgirl210410

Commented 48 months ago - 16th May 2012 - 11:00am

I know what you mean, it's the same in my school and i have the same attitude, why would i want to spend hours on my hair and makeup and squeezing into clothes when i can be myself and feel comfortable x
you came to one of the editorial meeting right?
if im thinking of the right person your not fat and your very pretty, don't listen to them, they're jealous that they haven't got the confidence to stand out and be themselves x
Be strong! x

Little

Commented 48 months ago - 16th May 2012 - 11:06am

Be yourself. That's the best advice I ever had. There is lots of pressure to act, look and behave a certain way. Just be yourself. It's tough sometimes, but it does get better. Stick to the friends that like you for being you. TheSprout is great for that!
:)

Liz_R

Commented 48 months ago - 16th May 2012 - 12:24pm

Most of us have some insecurities or worries about our appearance; there is a lot of pressure from society and the media to look a certain way and girls, more than boys, can be critical of the way that others look. Some people use make-up and clothing to mask their insecurities and present a ‘confident face’ to the world; they might feel anxious inside but others would never know it. It only takes one person to make a comment and others quickly join in, often because they are worried that they might be targeted next if they don’t join in.

You should be proud of yourself for staying true to who you are and ‘not changing for anyone’; it takes a lot of courage to be yourself but it is worth it as the friends you make will be real friends who accept you for who you are. Lots of people will respect you for resisting peer pressure and being who you want to be. There are lots of really good female role models out there who refuse to be like everyone else and who do things their way.

Confidence isn’t what you are, it’s what you do, and it comes with practice. Most people who seem confident are just really good at faking it! There are lots of ways you can fake confidence even when you’re feeling anything but, and people judge us on what they see, so if they see confidence that’s how we seem to them. Smile lots, approach new people, be friendly and interested, walk tall with your head help up high and make good eye contact with others. Try to sound confident with the tone of your voice. Set yourself small challenges all the time – every time you succeed you’ll feel a bit more confident. The challenges could be – talk to a new person, approach someone to ask them the time, answer a question in class or something else which you worry about.

Confidence comes from being around friends and family who care about us, and doing things that we love and that make us feel good, whether this is singing, going for a bike ride or watching a dvd with friends.

Remember that all of those things that make you feel different at the moment, the way that you look and the fact that you won’t change – those are the things that make you unique, and those are some of the things that people will love about you.

If things get too much and the comments are wearing you down, tell someone. Tell a teacher, tell an adult you trust or phone Cardiff Against Bullying on 02920 629800 and we can help.

Good luck.
Liz

the girls that do that to you are simply nothing when they say things like that stand up for yourself . if i was you i would go ahead n call them barbie cause they practically are fake it should get to them but if nothing works just ignore them and blank them out... show them the things they say and do doesnt get to you show them what your made of and they will stop!!!!

PS3Girl

Commented 48 months ago - 16th May 2012 - 18:06pm

yh, hisgirl210410, i've been to 1 of the meetings and hopefully the next, and thanks.

Thanks to everyone who gave advice, just be myself and try to ignore all people who think they control everyone else. Just stick with my friends.

I know how it feels to be bullied, just ignore them and it will come to differ.