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'Christmas' By Laolu

Posted by Meic from Cardiff - Published on 18/12/2015 at 11:58
4 comments » - Tagged as Education, Health, People, School Holiday Activities, Sport & Leisure, Topical

Meic knows that Christmas isn’t for everyone. They asked young people to explain how Christmas feels for them. This is Laolu’s story.

You can watch the video or read Laolu's words below.

“You know the anxiety you feel on Sunday nights? Those moments when you’re worrying about the week ahead, while beating yourself up for wasting an entire weekend? Multiply that by fifty-two. That’s how Christmas makes me feel.

Sometime during my teens, Christmas lost its meaning. It became less about the presents and the carols and the food, and more about this intense fear of getting old. It’s about how time is this never-ending spiral that won’t slow down for your inadequacies. (And the food. It’s always going to be about the food.) It has become a time to reflect on the year’s failures — well, successes, too, but let’s not forget that it’s clinically difficult for certain people to be ‘grateful’ and ‘optimistic’.

And don’t even get me started on the deadlines. This year I had to turn four essays in during the second week of January. No offence to them but, spending New Year’s Eve in the library with all the other nerds hopped up on caffeine is not exactly the most wonderful time of the year.

So, that queasy feeling I have when the Christmas lights go up in November? It’s because I need all the time I can get.”

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JWH98

Commented 4 months ago - 20th December 2015 - 14:39pm

This is an exceptionally depressing account of Christmas, to be honest. First of all, humans invented time and the reality that everything is constantly moving forward is simply the way of the world - thankfully for us, we can still access the past in our minds and not forget it. Christmas is about spending precious time with family and instead of lamenting the fact that everything gets older and eventually changes, relish being alive and seize every moment! You should be grateful for your background, family and friends and also your education and potentially exciting future! Admittedly, I do enjoy being philosophical: we're obviously all here for a reason, to enjoy life, be ambivalent about death which is the way to live in my eyes rather than worry about getting older, and to relish each opportunity in this life that we are provided with. Remember, be grateful for what you have and don't be wistful towards what you lack! Life is a gift - enjoy it while you can and do not squander your youth, whatever happens in the future…

JWH98

Commented 4 months ago - 20th December 2015 - 14:42pm

…Besides, though who are depressed should seek help and not consider contemplating suicide (you will squander your hopes, memories and dreams otherwise) because life is most certainly worth living, even though it may be finite for every living being.

JWH98

Commented 4 months ago - 20th December 2015 - 14:55pm

Before we return to the darkness where we came from, are reuinited with our loved ones whose lives have passed before us or if we are reborn into another body (I am indeed agnostic with some Buddhist and Hindu beliefs), we ought to savour our lives and not fear time and death whatsoever, for at present they are both painfully inevitable yet beneficial in some ways. After all, who would even want to exist in the Middle Ages rather than today and remain as a young child or baby for eternity? I feel awfully sorry for those people whose lives unfairly ceased at birth or at a young age and hope that they have been reborn to get a second chance of living instead of being plunged into eternal oblivion (a depressing atheist belief of what awaits everything after death)! Do not think of eternal oblivion, just regard death as a potential new beginning after our limited current lifespans.

Canny Celt

Commented 4 months ago - 23rd December 2015 - 11:35am

Thanks, Laolu for sharing your story, and interesting comments, JWH98. Always good to get some discussion going on here!

I certainly wish Christmas is "the most wonderful time of the year" for us all, but the truth is Christmas can be a difficult time for many people, particularly those who are depressed, stressed, anxious and/or grieving. Maybe Christmas is a welcome distraction from these things for some, but I think, generally, the fact that it's supposed to be a good time of year amplifies the difficulties. For example, you may miss a family member who's passed on with whom you can no longer share Christmas. Or, it can be like "I should be having fun, but I'm down, so I now I feel even worse". Likewise, over New Year's, many people reflect on the past year, and our difficulties, losses, inadequacies, and what not can come to the surface. Or, those struggling with anxiety - which is a complicated thing but normally (if not always) involves some fear of the future - may be daunted by a new year, when lots of us naturally look ahead.

Personally, I lost a 21-year-old friend of mine this year who I’ve spent most Christmas Eves with throughout my life and with whom I shared some of the most wonderful moments I’ve ever known, so I’ve been dreading tomorrow for many moons now. When the evening comes tomorrow, the hole in our lives will probably be at its most apparent and it’s very hard not to focus on his absence. But, those wonderful moments we shared will never die and I hope this truth will comfort many who feel lonely this Christmas. I will certainly cling to it more tightly tomorrow than perhaps ever before.

The video can be a reminder that it's good to spare a thought for those less fortunate than ourselves this Christmas period (like always, of course) and, for me, it's great to hear and watch someone be so honest about the reality of Christmas, behind all the glitz and glam, for them. Laolu’s honesty is a type of comforting solidarity for those of us who are struggling at Christmas – and this is certainly a more useful gift than most this Christmas. I hope this comment can extend the solidarity for those who are struggling.

Finally, having instant messaged Meic before, I can recommend their service if anyone wants someone to chat to over Christmas (or whenever, really) about their struggles.

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