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Aunty Sprout: Anorexic Acquaintance?

Posted by Aunty Sprout from Cardiff - Published on 25/04/2012 at 12:14
4 comments » - Tagged as Food & Drink, Health

  • Aunty Sprout

Dear Aunty Sprout,

I am concerned about a friend of mine. You see, we're not BFFs or Sisters from another Mister or anything, but obviously, I worry about the welfare and health of all my friends.

Over the past year, she has lost quite a bit of weight and nobody ever sees her eat except maybe an energy bar or something and that's rather rare, too. I fear she could be anorexic.

I don't want to just bring it up with her and be "Oh, hey, why are you losing weight?" or anything because there may be an explanation, but nevertheless, I am worried in case there is something wrong. How do I go about making sure she is OK? She might find it offensive if I ask her straight up and I don't want to ask her family either. I hardly know them and if they don't know, it may cause trouble - I do not want to be the cause of that.

Any ideas?

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Aunty Sprout

Aunty Sprout

Commented 49 months ago - 25th April 2012 - 12:17pm

I think it's fantastic that you're showing such concern for your friend. You can find out more about eating disorders here and it might worth getting in contact with someone like beat. Meic will have more contacts.

Sam Sprout (Editor)

Sam Sprout (Editor)

Commented 49 months ago - 25th April 2012 - 12:28pm

Afternoon! We've got a couple of articles about anorexia, don't know if they'll be any help?

Exposed: Anorexia & Bulimia
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Commented 49 months ago - 25th April 2012 - 16:55pm


I can hear how much you’re worried about your friend, and it’s really good that she’s got a friend like you looking out for her. You’re already doing a really good job of showing you care by finding out how you can help.

I can understand it might be difficult to know how to go about talking to her about this. Here are some things you might want to think about:

*You could try and find a time to talk where you’ll be alone and won’t be interrupted. Tell her that you’re concerned about her, and ask whether everything’s ok. Let her know that you’re there for her if she’d like someone to talk to.

*If it’s difficult to find a good time, or you don’t feel comfortable talking to her face-to-face, you could think about sending her a text or message online just to let her know that you’re worried about her and that you’re there for her.

*Remember that she might not be ready to talk just yet, but letting her know that you care is a good first step. If she doesn't feel that she can talk to you, you could encourage her to speak to someone else who could help, like a school counsellor or the doctor.

*You’re already doing research on how you can help, which is great. There some good organisations and websites out there that you might want to find out about. One of these is Beat. They have a website for young people which has a lot of information, and also they have a helpline for anyone who is affected by eating disorders, including friends who are worried:

Beat Youthline telephone number: 0845 634 7650

Website: http://www.b-eat.co.uk/get-help/online-community/young-people/

*Another thing to keep in mind is to look after yourself. It can be stressful being worried about a friend who might have an eating disorder. Make sure you have someone you can talk to about how you’re feeling.

If you need someone to talk to, or would like any more information or advice on this, you can always contact Meic by phone (08088 023456), text (84001), or instant message (www.meiccymru.org). This is confidential (unless you or someone else is at risk of harm) and completely free. We are open 24 hours a day 7 days a week.

I hope everything works out for you and your friend.

All the best from the Meic team.



Commented 47 months ago - 12th June 2012 - 18:40pm

It's really good that you are worrying for your friend but I think maybe you should talk to her if you are really concerned. Maybe sit her down and just ease yourself into it, perhaps ask her if she wants anything to eat and if she refuses say that you don't really see her eat and you are concerned that way she can't be offended.

Hope this helps!

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